Teenage-hood can be tough. They’re not a kid anymore and they don’t always get treated like an adult. They are dealing with a ton of stuff and they can feel so incredibly overwhelmed.
I provide adolescent clients with a safe, nonjudgmental, relaxing and supportive environment where they can talk about any problem or concern. What is discussed in the session will not be shared with anyone including parents/caregivers, without adolescent clients written permission (unless there is an issue related to someone’s safety).
Concerns often discussed in adolescent counseling include friends, family, school, dating, sex, sexual orientation, drugs/alcohol, loss, divorce, fears, issues related to body image/food, career options, values, and identity.
Stress can be the cause of many mental health problems as well as physical ailments. There are many ways we can work together to reduce stress and anxiety and increase your ability to live in the present moment. Stress is mental, physical/emotional, and behavioral – we will work to change all three as a part of the process. For example, some of the behavioral techniques I teach to achieve deep relaxation include, guided imagery, mindfulness/meditation, and deep breathing. Furthermore, I will work with you to develop your own individualized plan for use in your daily routine.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is among the treatments that have been most extensively evaluated and that have shown through research to be effective. CBT helps a person to engage in healthy life activities, particularly activities that are consistent with one’s life values. This therapy also helps people to develop skills and abilities to cope with life’s major events and to learn social relationship skills. CBT also helps to bring awareness to faulty thinking patterns in the mind and enables a person to make positive changes.
CBT is used to work with:
- Substance use
- Eating Disorders
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a counseling technique that has been scientifically researched and highly effective for the treatment of trauma, anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
The mind can often heal itself naturally, in the same way as the body does. Much of this natural coping mechanism occurs during sleep, particularly during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep. Francine Shapiro developed EMDR in 1987, utilizing this natural process in order to successfully treat PTSD. Since then, EMDR has been used to effectively treat a wide range of mental health difficulties.
EMDR is also useful for:
- Panic Attacks
- Grief and loss
- Trauma (events or experiences)
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
EMDR uses simple but effective behavioral techniques to reprocess trauma and anxiety in order to help regain your natural state of functioning. Although each client is unique and has specific needs requiring varied duration and intensity of treatment, many clients have reported significantly lowering their disturbance, after a several sessions.
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Healthy relationships allow both unique individuals to feel supported and connected while interacting with each other interdependently. Healthy communication and healthy boundaries are two major components that contribute to healthy relationships. Both people in the relationship decide what is healthy and what is not. If something doesn’t feel right, you should be able to express and discuss this with your partner. Dealing constructively with conflict, listening and hearing each other; these skills help strengthen the relationship. Sometimes partners do not express what they really want or feel until they find themselves in therapy. Some people come to therapy to get an issue “out on the table” and begin dealing with it with professional support for both. Unhealthy communication can lead to conflict…and a mountain of unresolved conflict and resentments over time can destroy the relationship and create abusiveness. Whether you are struggling in a relationship, wanting to learn how to be healthier in your new relationship, or ending a relationship and wanting to work on yourself, doing relationship work is a “gift you give yourself and others”. Some clients come to therapy to do some deeper work on their relationship with “themselves” to make it healthier. Doing relationship work produces more healthy enriching relationships. Relationship work includes communication, boundaries, openness, honesty, trust, unconditional love and intimacy as integral components of the relationship with healthy boundaries and healthy communication. Abuse (perpetrated by either a female or male) is never acceptable in a relationship and help and safety should be sought immediately.
What if your partner isn’t ready for counseling?
If your partner isn’t ready for counseling, that isn’t a problem. We will simply work on how you can create positive change in your relationship and start addressing your needs right away. After the first few sessions we will either start meeting together as a couple or continue individually, depending on what will benefit you the most.
Parents often complain that “children don’t come with instructions!” This is true, and especially today when the changes in lifestyles during the last generations have presented parents with a very different world in which to raise their children. Peer pressure, bullies, drugs and many other stressors face our young people today and, especially during adolescence, they may find themselves struggling to stay afloat.
Often, parents have questions about how they can assist a son or daughter who may be struggling with specific problems. They may be afraid to set too little or too strict limits. Is this normal for their age? Will my son rebel and run away? Should I wait until she matures and starts to be more responsible? Is he too old for me to set limits and requirements?
It is very frightening when a child becomes rebellious, has emotional problems or has difficulties with drugs and alcohol. Parents may find it difficult to discuss their child’s difficulties with others, including their own parents. They may even feel ashamed and as failures. It is important that parents receive the help they need to identify and understand the problem interactions with their child in order to improve the way that they effectively face the difficult task of helping him or her to take responsibility for choices and behaviors, and to return to appropriate functioning.
I understand how difficult your task as parents is and can offer assistance in dealing with such complex situations without judging. As an objective person separate from the family dynamics, I can often see issues more clearly without the emotional investment that so often interfere with our reasoning. I can then assist you in arriving at solutions that comply with your family’s values and culture and help you find the right balance for a healthy family.
It takes courage and strength to face up to any type of addiction, whether it is drugs, alcohol, internet, gambling, food, prescription drugs, relationships, nicotine or self-injury. There are many other addictions/process addictions. No matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you are feeling, there is hope and help available. Don’t give up even if you have tried and failed before. Recovery is a process and there are bound to be bumps in the road along your journey. You can overcome your addiction/s by learning how to cope in ways that are more constructive than destructive to yourself and others.
Sometimes changes may come quickly and easy. But at other times it will be slow and frustrating. There is no magic formula and no instant painless cure. However, you can learn new ways of looking at your problems that will be very helpful in changing your feelings and reactions. You can learn new skills to help you communicate more effectively and behavioral techniques to reduce your stress and anxiety.